Rape and sexual violence are often used in porn for titillation, (though this is abominably wrong, my focus is that) these depictions are highly stylized; a fantasy that in dislocated from the reality of sexual violence. Such depictions cloud the understanding of what rape is, looks and feels like. These fantasies tend to show a female resisting certain specific sexual behaviour, her boundaries being disregarded to which she later enjoys and has screaming orgasms from. Common scenarios are the image of the rape of the virgin or the faux nos of a ‘slut’ which are just there to hide her ‘slutty’ desires, which are okay to violate because she is a ‘slut’. This sends a clear and consistent message that violation of the boundaries of women are arousing, and that her boundaries are not valuable or real. These forms of porn are packaging rape fantasies as a commodity. Rape porn is buyable and there is a market for it. We are living in a rape culture which denies the realities of what rape is and even that the ‘perpetrators’ are criminals. 

I know smart, bookish, beautiful women… they are unique but all are disinterested, uncomfortable, do not get much from typical pornography. why is this?

it can not just be catholic, christian guilt from church when we were twelve. there must be something in porn that is not catering to these women. sad. dis-heartening. they wrinkle their noses, because it makes them feel insecure. what is wrong with the style of this ages pornography?